Behold, after a person is worthy of the secret of deveikut [bonding with G‑d] one may become worthy of the secret of hishtavut [equanimity]. If a person is worthy of attaining equanimity, one may become worthy of attaining hitbodidut [meditation]. After a person is worthy of reaching the level of meditation, one may become worthy of Divine inspiration, and then one may become worthy of prophecy….
Of two persons - one of them honors you and the second insults you - are they equal in your eyes?In explanation of the secret of equanimity, Rabbi Avner told me the following: A rabbi once came to one of the meditative Kabbalists and requested of him to be accepted as an initiate. The Master said to him, "Blessed are you my son to G‑d, for your intention is a good one. However, tell me whether you have attained equanimity or not?" The rabbi said to him, "Master, explain your words." The Master replied, "If there are two persons - one of them honors you and the second insults you - are they equal in your eyes or not?" The rabbi said to the Master, "No my master. For I feel pleasure and satisfaction from the person who honors me, and pain from the one who insults me. But I do not take revenge nor bear a grudge."
The Master said to the rabbi, "My son, go in peace. For until such time that you have attained equanimity, until your soul does not feel the honor of the one who honors you and the embarrassment of the one who insults you, your consciousness is not ready to be connected to the supernal realm, which is a prerequisite to meditation. So go and surrender your heart even more, a true surrendering, until you have attained equanimity. Then you will be able to meditate."
And equanimity comes by attaching one's consciousness to G‑d, i.e., deveikut (bonding). For it is the attachment of a person's consciousness to G‑d that enables a person to ignore the honor or the insults…
[Gates of Holiness, 4th chapter, Third Gate, section 5]
Coming back to this concept. Ignoring the honors and insults, when being so closed to our Creator. My love for Him is so deep. Loosing Him is terrifying. It is hard to ignore insults, hurts. Sometimes the pain they bring depends on the person who cause them. The more meaningful to us the hardest. But, the knowledge of the love Hashem, blelssed be He, gives us. Seeing His glory everyday in every detail of this Creation of His, all hurts, all pain, rejection, neglect, abuses, would help us to to learn to ignore them all. When meditating in the beauty of His statutes, His compassion, His faithfulness, His True love, how not to one ignore it all? Life in this world is temporary. Nothing is compared to Him. Not riches, not all the treasures of this world. Our Father in Heaven is far more precious than it all. Why would anyone want to lose Him for all these temporary things? Our life closed to Him is far more worth. B"H!