Entry of Nefesh, Ruach & Neshama
throughout Life
(For definitions of these three aspects of the soul, see Chapter 1, Part 1)
When a person is born, his Nefesh enters him. If he is adequately rectified through his actions, his Ruach will enter him at the end of his thirteenth year when he becomes a "completed person." His Neshama will enter him only when he completes his twentieth year, as it says in the Zohar (Mishpatim 94b).
This is talking about the ideal situation during a person's first gilgul, as we will soon see.
However, if he does not completely rectify his Ruach, then the Neshama will not enter him and he will remain with only his Nefesh and Ruach. Likewise, if he doesn't completely rectify his Nefesh, then he will remain with only his Nefesh, lacking both his Ruach and Neshama. The Ruach and Neshama will remain in a place known to The Holy One, Blessed is He, and there a place will be prepared for each one.
In other words, until a person is able to receive all parts of his soul, the parts he has yet to receive remain hidden away by G‑d until the person is ready for them.
Now, if a person does not completely rectify his Nefesh the first time and dies, then his Nefesh will have to reincarnate, perhaps even many times, until it is sufficiently rectified. However, since he only achieved tikun through a gilgul, even after complete rectification is achieved his Ruach will not enter [unless there is a pressing need, as will be explained, G‑d willing].
Had it been his first gilgul, then he could have received his Ruach while still alive in his original body. This is not the case if the rectification of the Nefesh is completed during subsequent gilgulim.
He will have to die and return in order to receive the Ruach. Furthermore, once the Ruach is sufficiently rectified, then he will also have to reincarnate before receiving a Neshama, as was the case with the Ruach.
After he finally rectifies his Nefesh and dies, in the next reincarnation he will return with a Nefesh and a Ruach. Once the Ruach is rectified as well, then he will die and come back in another gilgul with a Nefesh, Ruach, and Neshama.
If the Ruach is not sufficiently rectified, then the Nefesh and the Ruach will have to come back again, perhaps many times, until the Ruach is rectified. Once rectification is achieved, then the person will die and his Nefesh and Ruach will come back with the proper Neshama until all three are rectified. Once this is done, there is no need for any further gilgulim. When his Neshama is completed, he has become a "complete person."
[Commentary by Shabtai Teicher.]

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How do I rectify the different parts of my soul in this world? When I try to stop trying to be Jewish in religious sense...and try to be satisfied with being a righteous gentiles according to 7 Noahide Laws, I am miserable! I am unable to stay this way. If my husband of 38yrs. will not convert with me...I must leave him. Help me, please for answers here.
Leave your husband????? Leave your husband of 38 years?????did I hear that right????
Judaism is not in the business of splitting people up. Go and talk to your husband and solve this issue of your marriage first.
To Anonymous
This is a difficult situation. I believe I can offer a solution to your problem. Follow your spiritual path to conversion to Judaism. If your husband is Jewish but he will not convert you it is most probably because one of the tenants of Judaism is to reject a non Jew desiring conversion three times to make sure the non Jew knows how difficult it can be to be truly Jewish. If after three times your spouse still refuses to convert you then seek a Jew who will convert you. Beyond this you may be having marital discord. If so seek a marriage counsellor to help you.